CONTENTS

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Part One - The Preface to Marital Counseling

1 - Marriage at a Crucial Stage of Existence

2 - Three Fights in One

3 - Marriage Is an Us

4 - Pastoral and Counseling Boundaries: Invested but not Overinvolved

Part Two - The Process of Conflict and Restoration

5 - Pain and Defense

6 - Offense and Injury

7 - Grace and Justice

8 - Empathy and Trust

9 - Forgiveness

Part Three - Marital Counseling Applied

10 - The Expressive Art of Sexuality

11 - The Product of Art: Children and Parenting

12 - Sexual Infidelity

13 - Divorce and Blended Families

14 - Substance Abuse and Behavioral Addictions

15 - A Graceful Conclusion

Index

CAPS International

Notes

Praise for Counseling Couples in Conflict

About the Authors

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Most therapeutic approaches, especially those of a cognitive orientation, are not very effective in dealing with high conflict relationships--couples often heading toward divorce by the time they seek help. Counseling Couples in Conflict is a resource for counselors and therapists who want to be ready for these uniquely difficult cases. Utilizing a relational conflict and restoration model Mark Yarhouse and James Sells point the way beyond the cycle of pain towards marital healing.